Dedicated to My Boyfriend

My entries usually reflect my life and, more often than not, it involves epiphanies and unpleasant experiences. I neglect to blog about good things in my life because they don't bother me. And as ashamed as I am to admit it, they don't have as much of a priority to me because of it. When things bother me, I have to vent for my sanity. Yet with epiphanies, I make the time to address them, although they're aren't disruptive in my life, either. They're actually enlightening. That's an unfair double standard. If anything, I should use my energy more productively and positively by focusing on the better aspects of my life such as my boyfriend. I always felt cheesy bragging about my man. Every girl thinks she has the best. So who cares? But why am I so concerned about that? I certainly don't show the same consideration with other entries? Besides, one of my problems has always been ingratitude. I truly believe that when you expose yourself to positive energies, a positive environment, and live your life better that the universe will assist in your equilibrium. So, it's time I make a change. (For one thing, I should start focusing on not making my boyfriend's "entry" about me).

Here goes the cliques and the Ripley's Believe It or Not (exaggeration). My boyfriend is amazing. We've been together for over six years now, and our relationship is still fun, unpredictable, committed but also stable, loving, and evolving. It has a rare and healthy balance. It works because of who he is and who I am. I think that in a lot of relationships individuals don't know who they are, so their identity gets compromised. You can't have a successful relationship without knowing who you are. I know that I'm out of order with my whole bragging about my relationship, but it's not new. So, I'm less impressed with how awesome he is and way more touched by how good we are together. Going on and on about how amazing your man is is an act of a new relationship. Over time that dreamy perspective fogs with reality. When after all of that, you can look your lover in the eyes and really care about him, that's love. After all, it's easy to love someone who seems virtually perfect.

My boyfriend is far from perfect, but I love him. Perfection is unachievable, and I've learned to appreciate that reality. It makes things interesting. He's funny, which is significant because humor was never a requirement for me, as I have no humor whatsoever. And then I met him. I laugh so much that I have to make sure to moisturize. He's a great person, a wonderful friend, the most considerate roommate, and an amazing boyfriend. He's a successfully ATTENTIVE LISTENER. Trust me, I tested his abilities rigorously. I talk fast. I don't slow down. I have a lot to say. I've been compared to Six from the old TV show Blossom. She talks super fast. I didn't just test my boyfriend based on regular speed. In fact, out of amusement, with the predisposed notion that he would undoubtedly fail to comprehend anything I had to say, I spoke really, really quickly with random, irrelevant information every few sentences or so. Then I abruptly stopped and asked him what he thought. I just think it's funny to see guys panic, but to my surprise and shock, he heard EVERYTHING I said. Not just that but his listening skills are so refined that he corrected me. What a rare breed he is.

He's also sweet, caring, considerate, endlessly thoughtful, trusting, loving, understanding, and patient, great qualities for boyfriends to have. But the reality is, you can't live on Prince Charming qualities alone, long-term anyways. He's also intelligent, knowledgeable, insightful, perceptive, innovative, and ambitious. These added qualities enrich our relationship and allow us to connect at a deeper level. We're crazy about each other, but we can also be adversaries. We can talk about anthropology and start cracking up. Okay, that just makes us sound immature and unfocused, which we sometimes are, but it's not like that. There's just so much more.

There are so many dimensions to our relationship, some of which I thought weren't possible. I love him because of who he is not just as a boyfriend but as a person. He has a strong sense of self, but so do I. That's so important. I've loved before, but it was never like this because it was the wrong guy but also I was different. I've always been a strong person, but I was also lost. You can't have a successful relationship until you discover who you are. We both know who we are, so we know that we work well together because we're not bullshitting. I love him for who he is. I love how he makes me feel. I love who I am when I'm with him. I love how we are together. There's a lot to be said about a happy and thriving relationship after all of these years. The crazy thing is that we're still learning a lot about each other. It's never boring for us.