Not All Good People Are Meant to be Your Friends

I’m fortunate enough to know a lot of great people, but there are flaws in everyone. That doesn’t mean that you should lose all ties with them, but I’ve come to the realization that not all good people are meant to be or even should be your friends. Some people just bring out the worst in you for whatever reason, intentional or otherwise. Some people complain and complain and complain. I would know because I’m one of them. I worry how it can become contagious and how it can affect others but more importantly, the kind of negative impact it can have on my outlook in life. So I try to be conscientious of my behavior, but not everyone is like that. Sometimes I meet some great people who have good hearts, but I find that they depress me with their constant complaints and negative approach and lifestyle. That perspective permeates my views like poison. That’s not how I want to live in my life. My mood reflects my environment, so as much as possible, I want to expose it to the healthier aspects of life. You can’t change people. So you have to ask yourself if you’re willing to deal with the consequences of having people like that in your life and the potential results it can have on you. And sometimes the answer is no. I’m unwilling to let others poison me. It’s a decision I have to live with. It’s unfortunate sometimes as I’m closing the door to one thing, but the door it’s opening or allowing to remain open exceeds any menial benefits the alternatives may offer. This is something, I believe, we all struggle with. And when your time comes, really examine your life and the others who are a part of it. This may sound selfish, but think about yourself first. People will always come in and out of your life, but you can never escape yourself. So be sure to evolve into the kind of person you can respect and admire.